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Updated: Jul 21, 2022

PART 1/4

To Know What’s Most Important to You, and to Live Like You Know it!

I’ll start this conversation with a sobering thought concerning what people tend to want most when they receive news of a terminal illness, or they find themselves with a very limited time left to live. Do they want to review their portfolios, credentials, and account balances? Do they want a glimpse at their list of accomplishments, trophy cases and treasure chests? Do they long to reminisce about their autograph and automobile collections? I think not! None of these things make the list of what's most important to people when faced with their own mortality.

Now, there’s no denying the level of enjoyment, fun, excitement, and happiness we receive as a byproduct of all these good things made available to us, but in and of themselves, they do not qualify for the MOST IMPORTANT THINGS list.

I saw an online article published by PubMed recently, and it suggested that the three things people want most when facing death is truth, touch, and time. I’m not certain how they reached this conclusion, but it seems spot-on. I have a friend who serves as a hospital chaplain, and in our many conversations about his encounters, the theme is almost the same. They want to make the most of the time they have remaining. They want the assuring comfort of knowing they are not alone, kind words and meaningful touches that say you matter, and we care about you. And with little time remaining, there’s no time for pretense or falsehood, only truth.

Now, let’s get back to the original question. How important is it to know what’s most important to you, and to live like you know it? Well, on a scale of 1-5, I’m voting very close to a 5. I would say it is extremely important to know, …not think you know, …not feel like you know, … but to know that you know what’s most important to you. And once you have taken the time to know what you know and write down what you know, the next step is to walk out that truth. However, if you fail to make time to know and simply take the improvisation approach or shoot from the hip, as some would say, you run a high risk for big regrets down the road.

Here is a list of common things we regret from time past.

· Not uttering the words, I love you as much as we could have.

· Not spending more quality time with family and people we care about most.

· Allowing fear to keep us from being ourselves.

· Making pleasure more of a priority than purpose.

· Not reaching out more to those who were in need.

How can you know for certain what is most important to you?

There are many ways and various tools to help you discover your long list of values, gifts, passions, and abilities. These tools can help you narrow your long list down to the few things that you really care about.

I encourage you to consider making time to clarify what’s most important to you and consider what it will take to live those values daily. Trust me, you will be glad you did! And if you find the process to be difficult or stressful, find a Life Coach to help. I've been there and know the value of coaching firsthand.

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